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Make Decisions in Three Steps
Gwen Pettit (Gwen)
February 3rd 2010

Make Decisions in Three Steps

How do you make decisions in the face of complex choices? Try this three step method to simplify the process. Ask three critical questions before you take any action.

 

  • What do I want?
  • How badly to I want it?
  • What resources do I need?

 

This process will help you focus on your desired outcome, prioritize possibilities and be informed before taking action.

Here is one example.  I had a physician client faced with the decision to take a new job to stay in a physical location or move across the state to fill an opening with her current practice partners.  Staying the same was not an option, so Sarah had only a week to sort out her choices and make a decision.

 

What do I want?

Sarah fully explored what she wanted as a desired outcome by making a list of everything that was important to her in any medical practice. Then she ranked them from high to low priority.

Once she was clear on her ideal practice setting, it was easier to compare both job situations.

We than examined all the other factors including recreation opportunities, social needs and physical locations.

 

How badly do you want it?

This questioned helped Sarah prioritize her lists. For her it became clear staying with her medical group was more important to her than where she lived. That led to the decision of being willing to relocate to another town.

 

What resources do I need?

We started with all the information she could gather about her current company and the new company. Asking many questions to understand what each company could offer and what their highest priority was in filling the position. Talking to both groups gave her the best position to negotiate for her ideal options.

Coaching then focused on the negotiating points that were most important to her and clarity on what areas she was flexible or open to any option.

Using this three step approach along with a professional coach allowed Sarah to be confident in her decision around choosing her idea professional path.

 

I have found that people tend to skip over the parts of a decision that are important to their satisfaction level because they focus only on the details of the options.  When a professional choice has long lasting effects, it is worth the time to use a specific system to examine all the options to get your desired outcomes.

 

Gwen Pettit is a transitions coach.

The value of coaching with Gwen is that your choices and decisions reflect your true desires. Because of this change you will regain balance in energy, work and play.

 

Gwen Pettit, ACC, MA, MS                       970 275-0323           gpspiral@gmail.com

 

 


Got goals?
Gwen Pettit (Gwen)
March 4th 2010

Got goals? Who is in charge of your day?

Why do goals matter? Does it matter if the day to day tasks seem to go on forever?
I think it matters to our peace of mind how time is spent each day.
Goals act as a road map. Having a goal gives you a guide for making choices and taking actions that move you towards a desired outcome. Without clear goals, you may be going nowhere fast and getting worn out in the process.
Here is a four step process to get you started on creating your own road map.

Step one
Write out everything you want to achieve in 2010. Brainstorm without editing; just write down everything that pops into your brain.

Step Two
Cluster and rearrange your list into categories. You may have 3-4 things that focus on health or personal development.

Step Three
Look over your big list and pull out the 2-3 things that you feel are the most important goals. Ask yourself why this goal is important to you and write that down.

Step Four
Write out your top three goals as if you have already achieved them. Be specific and attach a completion date. Post this and read it everyday.

This process can be simple. What I find is that people create a great list, then skip the why is it important question. Your attitude and belief that you can accomplish a goal are the strongest motivators to keep you moving forward.

Take a step today and make time to get clear on your goals for 2010.


Coaching with Gwen will help you find balance in life, work and play.

 



Three reasons that fitness programs fail
Gwen Pettit (Gwen)
November 27th 2010

Are any of these your fitness barriers?
1. Do you believe that once you reach a certain size or weight, you'll be happy?

When you say to yourself, "I'll be happy when I reach______pounds," one of two outcomes will result.

The first outcome is that you never reach that weight and are, therefore, never happy. The second outcome is that you reach that magical weight and realize after a while that is has absolutely nothing to do with your happiness.

The way to reach an understanding about your weight is to identify and deal with the underlying problem or issue with you and weight. Start by paying attention to when you eat and what food means to you.

Then you can start to take care of yourself in a way that makes the weight less of a struggle. Food is not your enemy, it is a tool to give you energy and be healthy.

 

2. Do you frequently look for a shortcut or an easier way to achieve what you want?

Dedication, commitment, and effort are needed to accomplish anything worthwhile.

You need to make a plan and stick to it if you want to achieve success when it comes to raising your family and succeeding in your career. The same goes for maintaining a successful, loving relationship.

Persistence and taking small steps every day is required to accomplish most anything worthwhile. Losing weight and taking care of you is no exception.

When you are counting on your health, fitness, and weight loss goals to be accomplished by the latest fad, you are really looking for something to take the place of making lasting changes in your routines.

Take the time to make realistic goals and action steps that support your healthy self

 

3. Do you frequently use excuses to get yourself out of doing what it takes to reach your goals?

"I don't have time."

"I don't like to sweat."

 "The rest of my family would never eat that."

"Then I'd have to shower before I go to work."

"I have to travel a lot in my line of work."

"My shins hurt when I do that."

"I have asthma."

"I get a rash when I do that."

"Then what do I do with all those sweaty clothes?"

"I'll start Monday."

 "I'll focus on that next year."

So many people just want to talk about making a change. But when it comes right down to doing the hard work or making the tough decisions, they prefer to offer excuses as to why they continue living their lives just as they are. Don't be a victim of your own excuses... If you have excuses, you're not ready, plain and simple.

Start your list today of why it is important for you to be a healthy person. When those goals are important enough, they will override any of your past excuses.

 

Your three action steps for a successful fitness plan

  1. Understand your relationship with food, use food for health and energy
  2. Make a plan that you can do every day, one step at a time
  3. Throw out your excuses and focus on goals that are important to you

 

Gwen Pettit is a life coach who helps people feel good about the changes they make to improve health and fitness one step at a time.


Personal Boundaries
Gwen Pettit (Gwen)
September 7th 2011

Personal boundaries are those invisible limits that you set around your life to allow good things in and keep you out of harmful situations. I consider boundaries as landmarks that mark my comfort zone in many situations. For many years I was a yes person. I would agree to take on any project and fix any situation for others with no regard for how that affected my energy levels. Then I moved to the other extreme and became a no person to any request. I had to learn to say no to everything because I did not trust my own system for deciding what things were harmful or helpful to me.

What can strong boundaries do for you?  Personal boundaries put you in charge of how you live your life and how you choose to interact with others.  They demonstrate respect for your needs and how much you treasure yourself.

What happens when you have no limits or personal boundaries?

One example is that you invite people into your life before you know their trustworthiness. You open yourself up to victimization. You find yourself overcommitted and unable to keep promises with feeling overwhelmed with no end in sight. Very weak boundaries can lead to emotional upheavals and feeling that life is out of control.

What happens when you set up very strong or rigid boundaries?

Here safety and control are you key needs.  The results are not being open to new ideas or shutting yourself off from interactions and personal growth.

How do you find a middle ground? You learn by paying attention to your current boundaries and how they are working for you?  What things have you agreed to do that immediately created a sense of overwhelm for you? What people or requests made you uncomfortable?  When have you wanted to change your mind and join in after you turned down an invitation?

The best idea I can give you is try treating yourself as you would your very best friend. Be considerate of your own time.  Take actions that demonstrate your value in life.  Make it a process to act as your own best friend.

 





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